The attic and the waiter

Brief report by a 67-year-old man about intimate experiences in early childhood.

Taken from the collection Positive Memories, compiled by T. Rivas.

Source: In the paper by dr. F. Bernard, De gevolgen voor het kind, in Sex met kinderen by dr. F. Bernard, dr. E. Brongersma, Ids Haagsma, dr.W.J.Sengers and Peter van Eeten, there is the following testimony of a 67-year-old man.

“When I was seven, I was in touch with a man who was especially nice to me. He used to take me to his attic, had me sit on his lap and we had sexual contact with each other. I really found it pleasant and enjoyed it. I was always looking forward to Wednesday afternoons, the days we saw each other. This went on for a long period of time.

[…] Now, as a nearly 68-year-old man, who has had a good life, I regard these contacts I used to have as very positive for my development. I would not have wanted to miss them, and I do not envy people who have never not had these opportunities.”

This case is also mentioned in another article (as Case 5) by Bernard, Paedophilia: what it means to the child, in: PAN - A Magazine About Boy-Love, Number 3 [Vol.1 No.3], November 1979, page 13-17. It contains additional information, namely:

“Later I had many contacts with other men, but never with boys my own age. One day I went with a waiter to his house. I was very interested and excited. We had unusually satisfying sex together. I must have been about 14. Back home I was restless and went to see him the very next day on my own initiative. We had intercourse about twenty times in the following period.”