I’m still grateful he initiated me in the most loving way

Printed letter to the editor of the Dutch newspaper deVolkskrant. A man who had a grown-up boyfriend at age 15 reports about his experience.

The authenticity of the report must be questioned. However, there is still a reasonable possibility that it is genuine. Therefore, the plausibility is rated level 1.

Source: Volkskrant (Netherlands), July 18, 2011

When I was fifteen, I had a relationship with a man of 35. It was I who wanted it. I even had to make quite an effort to convince my friend to dare to do something with me. I’m still grateful he initiated me in the most loving way.

I did it because I found it enjoyable and exiting.

As a 15-year-old homosexual boy, I didn’t know any peers like me. I had nowhere to go to explore my sexuality until I met P. Later, I told my parents everything and they understood. Sadly, P. died last year. We saw each other regularly until his death.

Nowadays, a similar voluntary contact between an adolescent and an adult isn’t possible anymore. When things are revealed, the adult is put behind bars. I understand that the pedophile organization Martijn wants sex with adolescents from the age of twelve to become an offense prosecuted only in case of a complaint, just like it used to be, so that young people have a choice. I can’t see anything wrong with that.

I’m writing this letter because I find the hysteria about everything relating to pedophilia is getting intolerable. I am against child abuse and I don’t want to trivialize the suffering of victims in any way. But not every intimate contact with a youngster is abuse, as I know from personal experience.